This year’s Cyber Week is the holiday gift that keeps on giving. Black Friday and Cyber Monday may have come and gone, but it isn’t too late to score major discounts on Refinery29’s favorite reader-approved retailers. Luckily for us, bedding brand Brooklinen and fashion giant Nordstrom have extended their Cyber Monday sales an extra day, and some other stores — like J. Crew and Abercrombie — are celebrating Cyber Week well into December. In other words, if Thanksgiving wore you out last weekend or you forgot to grab an essential holiday gift (or if, like us, you’re just not ready to say goodbye to the thriftiest time of the year), you’ve still got time to save big on vibrators, cordless vacuums, comfy sweaters, bedding, and more. Here are some of the best Cyber Week sales that are still plugging along, from Dyson to West Elm.

Cyber Monday Tech Deals Still Going On

Up To $120 Off Sitewide At Dyson

Until December 4, enjoy discounts including $100 off the Dyson Outsize Absolute+ or the Dyson Cyclone V10 Absolute. No promo code needed.

Up To 35% Off Sitewide At Dell

Until December 5, Dell’s laptops and monitors are hundreds of dollars off — no promo code necessary.

Up To $300 Off Sitewide At Therabody

For a limited time only, Therabody’s expert massager Theraguns are cheaper than ever. Take $200 off the Theragun Pro, or $100 off the Theragun Elite.

Cyber Monday Fashion Deals Still Going On

25% Off Select Styles On Abercrombie

You’ve got until December 9 to shop Abercrombie’s Cyber Week deals. Take 25% off select styles and 15% off all jeans. Plus, enjoy free shipping with all orders over $75.

Up To 50% Off Sitewide On Nordstrom

Shop discounted Kate Spade, UGG, and more until Nordstrom’s Cyber Week sale ends at 11:59 p.m. on November 30.

40% Off Select Styles On J. Crew

With the code FESTIVE, take 40% off the coziest sweaters, coats, and more that J. Crew has to offer, valid through December 6.

Cyber Monday Sex & Wellness Deals Still Going On

Up To 85% Off Sitewide On Ella Paradis

For a limited time only, sex toy superseller Ella Paradis is letting you take up to 85% off all sex toys, massagers, and vibes. Just use the code CYBER at checkout.

Up To 50% Off Sitewide On LELO

Until 11:59 p.m. on November 30, take up to 50% off LELO’s chic vibrators and toys (and save hundreds on bundles!).

30% Off Sitewide On Unbound

In honor of Cyber Week, take 30% off everything on Unbound’s site. The discount will be applied at checkout.

Cyber Monday Home & Decor Deals Still Going On

20% Off Sitewide On Brooklinen

Brooklinen’s 20% off sale is still ongoing, until 11:59 p.m. EST on November 30. Enjoy discounted sheets, loungewear, and cozy everything.

Up To 70% Select Bestsellers On West Elm

Until the end of November 30, West Elm’s bestselling, ready-to-ship furniture is up to 70% off. Plus, take an extra 25% off all clearance items with the promo code EXTRA25.

Up To 70% Off Select Bestsellers On Wayfair

You’ve got until 9 a.m. EST on December 1 to take advantage of Wayfair’s many, many Cyber Week deals, including up to 70% off bedding, 55% off kitchen goods, and more.

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Black Friday might be over, but rest assured: The best sales of the year are not. Luxury bath and bedding company Parachute is offering 20% off everything until November 29, 11:59 p.m. PST, so you still have time to shop the coziest deals on the web, no promo code required. Parachute’s Turkish cotton robes, suede slippers, and luxurious linen sheets don’t come cheap, but reviewers agree they’re worth the price tag — especially with such a big discount. Oh, and did we mention the site’s last chance items are up to 50% off?

From soft-as-a-cloud bathrobes to lightweight quilts, Parachute’s goods are going fast, so in the interest of saving you some time, we rounded up the best Cyber Monday deals on Parachute’s website. Your perfect shower and next lazy Saturday morning are just a few clicks away.

20% Off Parachute Cloud Cotton Robe, $99 $79.20

Made from four-ply gauze and 100% Turkish cotton, Parachute’s most popular robe is uber-soft, comfortable, and perfect for any temperature. In other words, if you don’t think a good bathrobe can make a difference in your morning or bedtime routine, you haven’t tried this one yet.

Ratings: 4.36 out of 5 stars and 1,448 reviews

Reviewers say: “I had been looking for the ideal robe for a long time: cozy without being hot, soft without being fleece, big enough without being ugly, and of course, pockets. I’m so thrilled that this robe fits all of my criteria. I especially love the weight of the fabric, which works year-round.” —Jess, Parachute Reviewer

20% Off Parachute Classic Turkish Cotton Slipper, $39 $31.20

Made from the same soft terry fabric as Parachute’s bestselling robes — and with rubber soles to keep you from slipping — these buyer-favorite slippers will keep you warm and cozy after your next shower or bath.

Ratings: 4.08 out of 5 stars and 193 reviews

Reviewers say: “I love these slippers, I use them when I get out of shower and they are so plush and comforting. I could not be happier with my purchase. I love that they match the robe I have. They absorb the water great and feel like I’m walking on air.” —Kayla, Parachute Reviewer

20% Off Parachute Classic Turkish Cotton Robe, $99 $79.20

Available in a variety of calm, neutral colors, the Classic Turkish Cotton Robe is a Parachute staple. Many reviewers liken the bathrobe to a thick, plush towel, and others add that it makes them feel like they’re at a hotel spa. A pro tip: Pair with the matching Turkish cotton slippers for ultimate luxury.

Ratings: 4.27 out of 5 stars and 2,294 reviews

Reviewers say: “I did a lot of research and read a ton of reviews on robes before deciding on this robe. It gets rave reviews everywhere and is on every “must have” robe list, so I took a chance and splurged. I got it in pink and absolutely love it! It’s heavy, warm, comfortable, and pretty. I’m so glad I did my research. 🙂 Love it!” —Margaret, Parachute Reviewer

20% Off Parachute Suede Slippers, $79 $63.20

These suede slippers are made with a shearling lining to keep your feet nice and warm during a lazy day in. They’re also limited edition, so snag them while you can.

Ratings: 4.2 out of 5 stars and 15 reviews

Reviewers say: “These are my favorite house slippers EVER. So soft and cozy and they look great too. I wear them all the time — perfect WFH footwear.” —Amy, Parachute Reviewer

20% Off Parachute Linen Box Quilt, $249 $199.20

Shoppers love Parachute’s soft and minimalist bedding, and this linen quilt is a favorite buy for good reason: It’s lightweight and easy to wash, but still warm and cozy enough for cold nights.

Ratings: 4.78 out of 5 stars and 817 reviews

Reviewers say: “Great quilt, very cozy and makes the room feel homey. It is on the lighter side, so you might have to add layers if you like more weight, but we love it!” —Katie, Parachute Reviewer

20% Off Parachute Soft Rib Towel Set, $150 $119

If you’re looking to upgrade your towels, you won’t find anything fluffier and more absorbent than Parachute’s Turkish cotton set, made using Spinsoft technology for maximum softness and durability.

Ratings: 4.47 out of 5 stars and 73 reviews

Reviewers say: “Wonderful towels are such an understated luxury. I live in a hot climate, so I’m always seeking the balance of super soft but also thin enough to dry quickly in a hot and humid climate. Wow, I found my match. They look high quality, they feel high quality. The price did make me hesitate for a minute, but when I wrapped myself up in one of these, those dollars bills made a whole lot of sense.” —Olivia, Parachute Reviewer

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With so many different vibrators, “personal massagers”, oils, and other sex-enhancing goods floating around the internet, it can be hard for a toy-curious person to discover (or even understand) exactly what might float their particular boat. A good place to start is the female-founded pleasure brand Maude, which has won over legions of loyal devotees (a number of Refinery29 readers among them) who love its accessible soft-touch vibes, woodsy massage candles, and luxurious bath products — and there’s never been a better time to check out the hype.

To mark Black Friday, Maude is offering 20% off all orders over $75. Just fill your cart to your heart’s content, use the promo code BLACKFRIDAY20, and enjoy your next solo or not-so-solo session. Even before plugging in the code, you can save big on Maude’s products by purchasing one of the retailer’s ready-made kits or bundles. There’s the bestselling vibrator and massager duo, for instance, or the Tub Kit, which has everything you need for a perfectly pleasurable bath.

The deal only lasts through November 28, so head to Maude’s online HQ right now to satisfy your needs — or, if you want get inspired, scroll down for some of Refinery29’s favorite customer-approved goodies. And if you can’t stop shopping once you’ve checked out the sexy selection, Refinery29 has you covered with the best of the best Black Friday deals across fashion, beauty, home, and electronics all weekend long.

20% Off Maude Vibe & Drop Duo, $80 $64

With Maude’s bundled Vibe and Drop duo, you don’t have to choose between the brand’s best-selling vibe and all-body massager. Both products are discreet, rechargeable, and waterproof. Use one after the other, or try them both at the same time — Maude’s reviewers say this pair is a match made in heaven.

Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars and 14 reviews

Reviewers say: “Does anyone else use both at the same time? Me? Just me? Good LAWD just go for it. My new favorite duo.” —Angelica, Maude Reviewer

20% Off The Maude Solo Kit, $75 $60

Treat yourself (or a loved one) to everything needed for a great solo session and easy clean-up: Maude’s soft-touch vibrator, organic lube, and hypoallergenic wipes. These products are small and sleek enough for easy travel, too.

Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars and 12 reviews

Reviewers say: “This was my first vibrator and none that I’ve bought since have lived up to how amazing it is. It showed up on my ads a while back and I decided to give it a try, and my God, what a great choice that was. I’ve since recommended it to all of my friends and it’s now a common topic of discussion of how much we all love this vibrator. The lube is fantastic and will be reordered, and the towels are great for quick cleanup. I cannot speak highly enough about this brand. It was a great find!” —Sammy, Maude Reviewer

20% Off The Maude Tub Kit, $32 $26.50

Whether you’re sharing a luxurious bath with a partner or just enjoying a little quality time with yourself, Maude’s bundle of salts and coconut milk bath mixture has all the essentials you’ll need to calm down, soften your skin, and upgrade your next soak in the tub.

Ratings: 4.5 out of 5 stars and 19 reviews

Reviewers say: “I’ve been looking for more natural/high-quality products to use in my baths and these really hit the mark. Just a few simple ingredients in both of these. The Soak smells AMAZING (I much prefer a woodsy/earthy scent over floral/fruity) and the Bath makes my skin feel so soft and smooth. I’m absolutely loving these for ‘me’ time and am looking forward to trying Maude’s other products for time with my partner.” —Aline, Maude Reviewer

20% Off The Maude Burn Trio, $40 $32

Can’t decide between Maude’s massage candles? Get the best of all three worlds with two different fragrances and one unscented candle. Thanks to the oil’s low melting point, it requires no cooling: Just blow out the candle, and enjoy ASAP.

Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars and 21 reviews

Reviewers say: “Burning the flame adds a sexy fear factor to intimacy. My partner and I were super into it!” —Sofia, Maude Reviewer

20% Off Maude Shine Organic Lubricant, $25 $20

Finding the perfect lube can feel like an impossible task, especially if you have sensitive skin, want to avoid sticky residue, and don’t want to spend a small fortune. Thankfully, Maude’s organic, lightly scented lubricant will leave you feeling amazing, both during and after sex.

Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars and 190 reviews

Reviewers say: “Feels amazing for both parties. It’s not sticky at all, it smells good, and even tastes good. Perfect formula for sensitive skin! Highly recommend!” —Andrea, Maude Reviewer

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There is almost nothing you can’t find on Etsy. From kitschy earrings to beautiful hand-knit scarves to chic decor, the DIY marketplace is home to some of the most creative gifts, one-of-a-kind accent pieces, and unique vintage goods. Ahead of Black Friday and Cyber Monday, the entire site is awash in discounts, with some sellers offering over 20% off their wares. We’re talking 25% off monogrammed jewelry, $50 off handmade cardigans, and more. If you’ve been looking for a sign to get a head start on your holiday shopping, this is it.

Etsy is known for its very niche goods — there’s no better place to look if you’re wondering whether Taylor Swift kitchenware or Succession-themed birthday cards exist — but if you have no idea where to even begin, we dug through some of Etsy’s bestselling items and hidden gems to find the best, freshest, and cutest deals you can browse right now (and of course, they’re all on sale for Black Friday).

Etsy Jewelry Black Friday Deals

Lapis Lazuli Ring, $66 $52.80

This simple-but-bold ring with a brilliant blue stone is stunning enough to suit anyone’s personal style.

Minimalist Name Earrings, $26.50 $19.87

If you already have a nameplate necklace (or if necklaces aren’t your thing), accentuate your outfit with these cute, customizable stud earrings. Choose your own finish, font, and — of course — name or word.

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Personalized Pet Necklace, $25.83 $15.50

Still in need of the perfect gift for your favorite cat parent? This cute, one-of-a-kind pendant necklace will become your friend, girlfriend, roommate, or dog co-parent’s new staple item.

Shop more MignonandMignon.

Dainty Fingerprint Ring, $51 $38.25

This simple, customizable ring is an elegant gift for your S.O. or yourself. Another idea: If you have a friend with a young child, ask for their kid’s fingerprint — the request might raise some eyebrows, but the present will be one-of-a-kind.

Shop more GracePersonalized.

Cheeseburger Dangle Earrings, $10.49 $7.87

These cute earrings will add a little whimsy to any outfit. If burgers aren’t your favorite food, check out the store for Girl Scout cookies, Starbucks cups, fried eggs, and more. You name it, it’s on an earring.

Shop more FuntimeJewelryStore.

Etsy Clothing Black Friday Deals

Oversized Chunky Knit Cardigan, $174 $139.20

These yarn and wool sweaters aren’t cheap, but with 20% off, here’s your chance to discover just how soft and high-quality this Etsy top pick is.

Shop more KnityaWearShop.

Rose Apothecary Sweatshirt, $35 $31.50

This cute, comfy sweater is the ideal gift for your friend currently in the middle of their Schitt’s Creek rewatch. Reviewers agree it’s soft and well-fitting. (David Rose would approve.)

Shop more EandEDesignsCo.

Chunky Merino Wool Cropped Cardigan, $273.40 $218.72

TheKnottyOnes’ bestselling, cropped, and ready-for-layering cardigans will keep you warm as fall makes way for winter.

Shop more TheKnottyOnes.

Monogrammed Pajama Set, $49.99 $20

These top-rated pajama sets are a steal at just $20 (yes, that’s 60% off!). Whether you’re planning an adult sleepover party or just looking for new monogrammed loungewear, start your search on Etsy.

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Etsy Accessories Black Friday Deals

Chunky Knit Scarf, $38 $30.40

This Maryland-based artist has earned thousands of five-star reviews for her cozy, colorful knitwear. This scarf (available in no fewer than 15 colors) is exactly what you need to keep warm this holiday season.

Shop more PeonyKnits.

Satin-Lined Knit Hat, $14.95 $8.97

Ima’s store specializes in creating cute hair accessories specifically designed for people with natural hair: This beanie is stretchy, retains moisture, and won’t damage your hair while keeping you warm and stylish.

Shop more ImaTressShop.

Embroidered Daisy Socks, $9.06 $6.34

The perfect socks should be as comfy as they are cute. Enter JesseTheDesigner, whose embroidered socks are durable, adorable, and extremely affordable, with a 30% off discount.

Shop more JesseTheDesigner.

Etsy Home Decor Black Friday Deals

Set of 3 Wooden Vases, $51 $40.80

Made from sycamore wood and hand-painted in Poland, this trio of vases will add a cheery, modern touch to any living room, office, or kitchen table.

Shop more ShadeonShape.

Half-Face Trinket Dish, $11.21 $9.53

You can never have too many trinket dishes. Especially when they’re as pretty as this half-face clay dish, sanded and finished with your choice of gold, silver, copper, or black paint.

Shop more ShaeJasmineClay.

Soy Candle Gift Box, $35.99 $30.59

Candles are always a winning gift idea, especially when they smell this good. From chardonnay to pumpkin pie to white tea, these candles will make your friend’s day, or make your own apartment smell heavenly.

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The smartest savings of the year — literally — are here just in time for the holiday season. We’re talking smart speakers, smartwatches, and even smart gardens for up to $400 and $500 off. Products from Apple, Google, Samsung, and more don’t come cheap, but we scoured the web for the best Black Friday deals on all things technology so that you can surround yourself with gadgets without paying an arm and a leg. If you’ve ever wanted to personalize your at-home fitness routine or are cordless vacuum-curious, now’s your chance to make your home (and life) just a little more intelligent.

Some massive retailers, like Amazon, Walmart, and B&H Photo, are offering sales across the board, but you can also head brand websites like Therabody for discounted massage guns or Dell for laptops at 25% off. Fan-favorite vacuum brand Dyson, meanwhile, will throw in complimentary gifts with certain purchases. But you need to shop soon — in some instances, you only have until November 27 to save big on essential (and some luxury) electronics, and they’re already going fast. From 40% off electric toothbrush bundles to $200 off iPads, here are all the deals you won’t want to miss.

Best Apple Black Friday Deals

Apple’s bestselling products are worth the splurge, but you don’t have to shell out all your savings for a pair of AirPods. Get hundreds of dollars off iPads, iPhones, MacBooks, and more from sellers like Amazon and Walmart.

Top Deals:
36% off Apple AirPods Pro at Amazon
$170 off Apple 13.3″ MacBook Air at B&H Photo
$225 Apple 10.2″ iPad at Walmart

Best Theragun Black Friday Deals

It might look a little intimidating, but there’s a reason everyone’s so obsessed with this self-massager. Using percussive therapy, the Theragun increases blood flow to sore areas, soothes muscle knots, and reduces inflammation. Save up to $100 on your own with limited-time deals from Amazon, Verishop, and more.

Top Deals:
33% off Theragun Pro on Therabody
Up to $100 off Theragun on Verishop
$100 off Theragun Elite on Amazon

Best Laptop Black Friday Deals

Now is the perfect time to upgrade your laptop — especially with deals like Dell’s limited-quantity flash sales, dropping daily at 11 a.m. EST. If you’re more of an Apple fan, B&H Photo has you covered with discounts on MacBook Pros, MacBook Airs, and more.

Top Deals:
28% off Samsung Galaxy Chromebook on Amazon
$150 off Apple 13.3″ MacBook Pro on B&H Photo
$400 off Dell’s Inspiron 16 Plus Laptop (+ free shipping)

Best Fitness Tech Black Friday Deals

Creating any kind of at-home gym or workout plan comes with a price tag, but these once-in-a-lifetime deals will save you as much as $500 on fan-favorite fitness brands. Your personalized workout awaits.

Top Deals:
$500 off The Mirror package (plus free delivery — a $750 value — through November 29)
$500 off Tempo Studio fitness packages
$250 off Tonal fitness equipment (plus membership and installation)
20% off Echelon Fitness equipment (plus free shipping and one-year membership)

Best Smart Home Device Black Friday Deals

There are many reasons to buy smart home products: They can help you conserve energy, clean your house, and generally make your life a little easier. If you’re looking to ease into a more intelligent home, Amazon and Bed Bath & Beyond have some unmissable deals, including Google Homes at nearly half-price.

Top Deals:
40% off Amazon Echo 4th Generation (plus six free months of Amazon Music)
50% off Google Nest Hub 2 at Bed Bath & Beyond
49% off Google Home Mini at Bed Bath & Beyond

Best Dyson Black Friday Deals

Dyson‘s beloved cordless vacuums are sleek, stylish, and easy to maneuver. For a limited time, the brand is hooking you up with products up to $120 off, and throwing in some free tools with every major purchase. You have until November 27 to take advantage of this offer, so jump in as soon as you can.

Top Deals:
$100 off Dyson Cyclone V10 Animal (+ free tools worth $75)
$50 off Dyson V8 Absolute (+ free tools worth $75)
$94 off Dyson V11 Torque Drive (+ free shipping) at Nordstrom Rack

Best Bluetooth Speaker Black Friday Deals

Whether you’re looking for a full-fledged speaker system or something smaller and more portable, Amazon and JBL have you covered with incredible deals on the highest-quality bluetooth speakers.

Top Deals:
20% off Soundcore Motion+ Bluetooth Speaker on Amazon
$100 off Marshall Stanmore II Wireless Bluetooth Speaker on Amazon
64% off Studio 580 Floorstanding Loudspeaker on JBL

Best Electric Toothbrush Black Friday Deals

Historically, toothbrushes haven’t always been a fun, go-to Black Friday buy. But buzzy models like Quip and Colgate’s Hum are upping the toothbrush’s curb appeal and offering bundles on their bestselling products this holiday season. With just one click, your teeth will have everything they need, from an electric brush to a reusable floss pick to anticavity toothpaste.

Top Deals:
40% off Quip’s Smart Start Bundle (plus free shipping)
40% off Philips One by Sonicare Battery Toothbrush
Up to 35% off Colgate Hum brush kits (until Dec. 31)

Best Smart Garden Black Friday Deals

You don’t need outdoor space to grow your own veggies. With smart gardens, you can plant, harvest, and enjoy your own herbs, greens, and other edibles, and use your phone to stay on top of watering and caring for your green friends. We scoured the internet for deals on the top-rated smart garden systems, and found several ways to save hundreds this weekend.

Top Deals:
$245 off AeroGarden’s Farm 24Basic
$145 off AeroGarden’s Farm 24Plus on Amazon (+ a salad bar seed kit!)
40% off the Smart Garden 3 on Click and Grow

Best Smart Watch Black Friday Deals

If you’re often on the go, chances are, you’ve at least considered a smartwatch. You can track your steps and fitness habits! You can take calls without reaching for your phone! You can monitor your heart rate! And in honor of Black Friday, you can snag the best of the best smartwatches out there for 20% off.

Top Deals:
$130 off Garmin Instinct Rugged Outdoor Watch on Amazon
22% off Apple Watch SE on Amazon
20% off Samsung Galaxy Watch4 Smart Watch on B&H Photo

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Shortly after graduating from college, Maya* got an internship working on Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign. She had taken a class on campaigns and elections her senior year, and was pleasantly surprised to learn that she could easily find work for candidates — even without fancy connections or prior Capitol Hill experience. Working in politics hadn’t been her dream — and, for that matter, Clinton hadn’t been her candidate of choice during the Democratic primary — but she found that she liked her job. 

“It felt like saving the world every day,” Maya, now 29, remembers. “It was something that I didn’t realize was what I wanted to do until I started doing it.” 

Over the next five years, Maya worked on six campaigns and lived in seven states. She became more and more successful, and finally scored a “dream job” working for her “dream candidate” ahead of the 2020 Democratic primary. She worked over 80 hours a week, avoided taking any days off, and put up with what she describes as a “toxic” work environment. “The candidate I was working for in 2020, I was genuinely willing to die for,” Maya explains. Then, her candidate dropped out. Suddenly, Maya found herself rethinking her career, her professional boundaries, and even her identity.

This might sound dramatic, but Maya’s experience isn’t unusual. Over the past several months, an abnormally high number of people have quit their jobs and switched industries entirely, with many of them leaving for reasons that aren’t just practical, but are also emotional. According to a 2021 report by finance site Moneypenny, the pandemic has made many people reevaluate their career: 1 in 3 people considered leaving their job this year, citing disillusionment, a lack of inspiration, and a lack of purpose. “The past 18 months has made some of us reconsider what is most important to us,” Moneypenny CEO Joanna Swash told CNBC.

The pandemic might have accelerated its demise, but the death of the dream job myth has been a long time coming, as first millennials and then Gen Z came to terms with the fact that working to live is much healthier than living to work. Disassociating from your job — especially one that you’ve spent years investing in — is easier said than done, and not always the goal for some people, especially Gen Z, who look for values- and mission-driven work. But what happens when someone’s work feels meaningful, but the job makes them feel powerless? 

In Maya’s case, the more crucial her work felt, the harder it became to disentangle herself from it. “There were definitely days on campaigns where I was just not having a good mental health day, but I pushed myself so much because it was like, This person’s gonna lose, and then we’re gonna lose the Senate, and then Trump is gonna have his free reign and World War III is gonna happen if I take a mental health day,” she says. Even when her work environment felt untenable, she refused to quit, telling herself it would be “worth it” if her candidate won. When another candidate became the Democratic nominee, it was easy to then feel like everything was for nothing: “It’s like, Oh, I basically killed myself for about a year for no reason.”

Alexis, 25, had a different experience. After several years of working as a freelance journalist, she found herself gravitating towards specific beats — including sustainability and regenerative agriculture — and wondering if there were other opportunities to fully devote her professional life to that field. Now, studying sustainability in grad school and working at an urban farm, Alexis says she feels more like herself. And, she’s glad about that. 

“I do really like having a thing. I like having something that I know about and that I can talk about with people who want to learn more about it,” she says. “Even in conversations that have nothing to do with sustainability or food, I find myself at dinners explaining the difference between sweet potatoes and yams and the historical significance of it.”

She sometimes struggles to distance herself from her work, but also says she’d prefer that to the alternative. “I think I was a lot more terrified of the vision of myself toiling away in front of spreadsheets all day,” she says. “That felt very suffocating to me, and I think I’d rather have my identity tied up in something that matters than have that separation.”

Jess*, 24, has wanted to be a journalist since they were a kid, but once they got a full-time job writing for three local newspapers, they started experiencing waves of burnout. “The industry is so volatile that you’re constantly on edge,” Jess notes. “The threat of layoffs constantly looms.”

That perpetual instability put Jess in a difficult position: They love the work they do and are not only proud of, but also feel defined by their achievements. But, it’s that very identification that makes the burnout even more frustrating, confusing, and upsetting.

“This is the thing that I’ve been working towards since I was young. This is what I’ve set as my life goal. And yeah, I guess career goals should be different from happiness you seek elsewhere in life, but that was the one thing I had always really envisioned for myself, and it felt really disappointing to feel like maybe I should be abandoning it,” they say. “It’s like, I thought that this was my passion. And the fact that it might not be is just disappointing.”

Disappointment — or, more specifically, disillusionment — can catalyze people to stop identifying with their jobs and seek fulfillment in other ways. And while that’s a difficult enough thing to process when it comes to a career like medicine or journalism, it’s particularly hard when your career is mission driven. Throughout college, Emma, 24, worked in Title IX compliance and coordination, both on-campus during the school year and off-campus over the summer. After completing a summer internship with NASA, reviewing Title IX policies and best practices, she returned to school for her senior year and was sexually assaulted. 

“I came back and, like, two days later had to go to my Title IX peer educator meeting,” she remembers. “So then it became my life. Because I was like, I don’t know how to process things, and the only way I could think of how to process this was just being like, I’m going to devote my entire life to this. And shockingly, that was not necessarily a super healthy reaction.”

Emma graduated during the pandemic, and immediately started working for NASA again. She finally had the space to process her own experience, but at the same time, had to spend day after day reading data and stories about sexual harassment. “I kept going, well, isn’t the original definition of self-care doing advocacy work that would have benefitted you?” Emma says. 

Eventually, though, she realized she wasn’t caring for herself. “I don’t think that work can be self-care. It’s just not going to be,” she says. Today, she works on a farm: digging, weeding, and harvesting goods by hand. “I come home at the end of the day and I am physically tired, like my body hurts a lot, but my brain is still intact and functioning much better from having been outside.”

Plus, she doesn’t carry around her work as part of her identity. And she’s now able to leave it behind at the end of the day. Literally. “Even if I was stressed out about how I didn’t get enough planted or weeded, it’s not like there’s anything I can do about it during my off hours because I’m not there,” Emma says. “I can’t physically do my job.”

After Maya’s candidate dropped out, she started working for a tech company. For the first time since college, she had regular work hours that allowed — and even forced — her to disconnect from her job and figure out what she wanted to have come next. And that’s exactly what she’s working on doing since quitting that job this past August. Now, she’s in the running for two positions: one for a local candidate’s campaign, and another for a different tech company. 

At the time of our interview, she hadn’t decided which role appealed to her more, but noted that the latter doesn’t service politics at all — which is new for her. “I’m a little bit nervous in a way, because so much of my personality for the last five or six years has been who I work for and the politics that I’m fighting for,” Maya says. “And now, it’s like I’m just a regular person. With a regular job.”

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