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Adult Performer Wesley Woods Is Officially Retiring From Porn

Though adult actors are granted the designation, few actually achieve the status of porn star. Wesley Woods is one of those fortunate few. 

His career began modestly with a simple response to an ad on Craigslist. After a few video interviews with different studios over the course of two weeks, Woods was off and filming. Now, four years later and several awards later, the top adult performer tells us that he’s officially throwing in the towel.

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While Woods is clearly not afraid to bare it all, telling us he’s unable to remember the amount of films he’s taken part in, we dug deep to find out how physically (and emotionally) taxing the porn world truly is for those who are immersed in it every single day.

AskMen: So what inspired you to up and leave the porn industry altogether?

Wesley Woods: After my assault in August 2018, I felt completely isolated from the world. It’s hard to explain, but I’ll never forget that feeling. The assault stirred up so many emotions and I began to back away from friends, withdrew from family and slowed down on social media. 

Initially, I didn’t handle the situation very well. I threw myself into work, constantly traveling and drinking. I didn’t feel like myself, and in some ways I took on the emotional energy that it was my fault that this happened, and that I deserved it. It became harder and harder to wake up happy, which was something that once seemed so inherently natural to me.

I spoke with a few therapists and after months of intensive work on myself emotionally and mentally, I finally began to allow myself to focus on me what makes me happy, what I want to do, where I want to go and who I want to be.

My isolation made me seek out a different approach to what I’m doing, a deeper listening to who I want to be, where I want things to go. I want to do more standup, I’d love to somehow help queer homeless youth and I want to be a source of light, love, and inclusivity in our community.

I’ve given so much time and energy to the adult film industry, and I want to focus my time and energy elsewhere. This isn’t to say that you can’t do and be it all, I’m just being called to something else. I can feel it. 

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A post shared by Wesley Woods (@thewesleywoods) on Sep 17, 2019 at 8:13am PDT

Looking back, what was your biggest regret in your porn career? 

I never got a proper gang bang dedicated to my holes. Isn’t that what everyone wants? All the dicks. I guess I’ll leave that to my personal life.

What about the scariest moment? 

Waiting for your test results to come in regarding if you’re positive or non-reactive to any STI. A positive test result means a loss of money (and potentially a lot of money depending on recovery time and the amount of shoots scheduled that would be missed). 

People assume I’m constantly having sex, but the reality is, I don’t fuck with my money and performers are tested more frequently than anyone. The hilarity of testing is how the straight side of the industry frowns upon any male talent who films scenes with men. Like, this dude’s dick can touch all the female mouths, butts and vaginas, but as soon as it touches a man’s butt or mouth, they must be burned at the stake. 

Even crazier, we are all tested at the same facility with the same procedures. But this is the world we live in as performers – be them gay, trans, bi, pan, however you choose to identify – we are viewed as deviant, dirty and high-risk. The straight world is far behind in conversations of sexual health. Many gay performers require stricter testing than heteros. And don’t even get me started on the U=U conversation. 

Name something you’re going to miss about working in porn.

All the shenanigans and the laughs. Even on a shitty day, you can wipe it off and keep going. There’s honestly so much I’m going to miss. Porn has gifted me so many opportunities, it has allowed me to travel and it has given me friendships that I absolutely cherish. I’ll even miss hearing the shrieking directions of ChiChi LaRue as she screams off-camera for you to “lick the hole.”

On the flip side, what’s something about working in porn you’re happy to leave with the industry?

I’m extremely excited to take back the ownership of when, where and how often I douche. Which directly relates to what I eat, when I eat, how much I eat. I’m really excited to know from now on that when I clean out my ass, it’s for my own personal and private use. Porn was beginning to feel robotic. 

What have you learned about sex and sexuality from being an adult performer?

It’s okay to enjoy what you enjoy, and that it’s okay to allow others that same opportunity. Everyone has a kink/fetish; the idea isn’t anything more than a preference of enjoyment.

I’ve learned exploring your sexuality is not only a desire we have as people, but also imperative to experiencing a fulfilling human experience, which you are not allowing when you limit and/or shame yourself and/or others from sex/sexuality. 

I’ve also been given the opportunity to meet a lot of people and interact with them in a way few ever will. I’ve listened to personal struggles, I’ve hugged people back to happy and I’ve created enjoyment for others because of my level of comfortableness with my own sex and sexuality. 

I’ve learned through porn and my experience as a porn star that people want to be seen, they want to be noticed, they want connection, they want to feel valued, and they’re longing for a release from the ideas society has placed on them. 

I’ve learned through my job that I too have triggers, fears and uncomfortableness expressing what I’ve needed from others for fear of rejection, fear of being weird or fear of being viewed as less than. Porn has released me from so many of my insecurities. 

What type of impact has porn had on your dating and romantic life? Are people understanding?

My job is definitely a conversation with anyone I’m interested in and I’m not ashamed of it. If my mother, who birthed me and had her own ideas of what my life might look like, can come to terms with everything I’ve done, I expect the same from someone I love. 

The common question or fear from others is, how can I hold space for someone I care about and be the type of partner needed and go shoot porn? I’ve only had one relationship in the four years I’ve done porn, and I think that speaks to the level of uncomfortableness the majority of others have with sex work. 

It’s difficult for people to realize that the person and the persona, although similar, are different. It is a job, and being a Gemini, I’m really good at being both. I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I’m excited to stop filming for the possibility of dating differently. We will see what happens. 

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A post shared by Wesley Woods (@thewesleywoods) on Aug 31, 2019 at 3:02pm PDT

Do you think having a career in porn will hinder future endeavors? It shouldn’t, but stigmas certainly persist.

Absolutely, and whatever it hinders wasn’t meant for me. I also think it’ll propel me, and I would much rather think of the exciting possibilities than the negativity of others “trying” (keyword) to stop me. Can’t stop, won’t stop!

What’s next for your career? What do you see yourself doing now that you have the option of keeping your clothes on?

Well, my immediate future involves a brand ambassador position with Fancentro. All my content from photoshoots, comedy shows, weekly giveaways, Q&A’s, and so much more will all be viewable on my premium Snapchat channel. 

I’m super excited to have a platform where I can connect in real time with fans and offer a personal view of all things Wesley! I will also be recruiting new LGBT artists/influencers to the platform and help others get paid for their Snapchat accounts. 

And do you have a message you’d like to share with your fans? You’ll certainly be missed in the industry.

I’m beyond grateful for the love and support I’ve received up to this point, and I hope people will continue to grow and evolve with me. I hope to bring out the best in others like this persona has done for me. Be bold. Be brave. Be you! 

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